Teila Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 (probably should've done this as a blog but ah well ) Considering that at the moment TF doesn't have many western women I do realise that maybe this isn't exactly the right place to say this but I need to get it of my chest. The main question is..... How do you get used to your friends leaving? I've been feeling a bit down as most of my friends are leaving Thailand in quick succession. For instance: 1) Rakhee went back to South Africa 2) Randy went back to London for a while (she was meant to go for 3 months but she's no longer sure whether she's coming back) 3) Chris went back to the states 4) Ashley went back to Colorado 5) Chelsea has moved to Chumpon & will stay there until she visits England then will go back to South Africa 6) Mariza is travelling with her bf & is gonna decide whether to go back to South Africa afterwards 7) Annabel & Jasmine are going back to England in about a month 8) Linn (my closest friend here) is going to Sweden (but it's only for a month ) 2-6 happened in the same month! 8 is happening tomorrow! None of them were tourists either (except for Jasmine) They all had been living here for quite some time, had jobs, apartments, etc... I've got a friend in Laos who has decided to go back to England as he can't deal with making friendships & seeing them leave shortly after anymore. Mind you, the bar he was working for got burnt down but I still think the options for him in Laos are far better than in England, what with the unemployment situation. lol. So yeah, I know I need to grow some balls & stop being a moaning sissy but still, any thoughts or comments are much welcomed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
English_Bob Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 No. It happens. Bangkok is a transient city. Bill and Rob were two guys I never thought I'd see leave. I lose good customers all the time. And I have to find new ones all the time. Bangkok can break your heart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 this should have been a blog !!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teila Posted July 20, 2011 Author Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 (edited) this should have been a blog !!! oh well. **** happens If it helps, feel free to share your experiences Edited July 20, 2011 by Teila yada yada Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin_2 Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 No. It happens. Bangkok is a transient city. Bill and Rob were two guys I never thought I'd see leave.I lose good customers all the time. And I have to find new ones all the time. Bangkok can break your heart. Oh, I see. We're just replaceable customers to you. FINE!! Just so you know, I've always hated how you comb your hair. BYE. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
English_Bob Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 Oh, I see. We're just replaceable customers to you. FINE!! Just so you know, I've always hated how you comb your hair. BYE. Paragraph = new subject (you tetchy old *****) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin_2 Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 Paragraph = new subject (you tetchy old bitch) Oh...now I feel like an asshole. I didn't really mean that comment about your hair. I was just reacting. I'm really sorry. Forgive me and don't throw away Ces' gift for Jasmine please. Anyway, back to the OP...Just be happy that you met those people, move on, and make new friends. A lot of people come and go through Bangkok. Keep in mind that many of your friends will return at some point, but focus more on making new relationships. How about a Teila Friends event? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
admin Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 You're still relatively young. I think this is something you get used to as you get older and your friends move on to other things. Marriages, jobs, families, etc will pull your friends away from you as you get farther and farther away from university age :-) The upside is that in today's interconnected world you can stay in touch with everyone. Via TF, FB, Google Plus, Twitter, or whatever you can keep in contact with your friends around the world and, hopefully, paths will cross again. For instance, one of my former employees in Gibraltar moved back to Australia (where he's originally from) just before I left and through somehow we're both working together in Los Angeles. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DANNO Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 You're still relatively young. I think this is something you get used to as you get older and your friends move on to other things. Marriages, jobs, families, etc will pull your friends away from you as you get farther and farther away from university age :-) The upside is that in today's interconnected world you can stay in touch with everyone. Via TF, FB, Google Plus, Twitter, or whatever you can keep in contact with your friends around the world and, hopefully, paths will cross again. For instance, one of my former employees in Gibraltar moved back to Australia (where he's originally from) just before I left and through somehow we're both working together in Los Angeles. Obviously she has not been in the military Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teila Posted July 20, 2011 Author Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 I guess it's just one of those things that happens. How about a Teila Friends event? hahaha! I should've probably made more of an effort to attend more than 1 TF event lol Obviously she has not been in the military Do divulge..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funky_house Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 Well look at it this way. At least your closest friend is coming back in a month. Wait until you get a bit older. They don't just leave, they start popping their clogs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stramash Posted July 20, 2011 Report Share Posted July 20, 2011 Paragraph = new subject (you tetchy old *****) He is too. Did you hear how gay he sounded in his video? So gay he removed it. Homo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 No. It happens. Bangkok is a transient city. Bill and Rob were two guys I never thought I'd see leave. so it's not all bad then !!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 and don't throw away Ces' gift for Jasmine please. hmmmmm .... i did tell her i thought Jasmine was a bit young for a rampant rabbit ... but u know these Asian girls .... can't ******* tell them anything !!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 oh well. **** happens If it helps, feel free to share your experiences nope !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DANNO Posted July 21, 2011 Report Share Posted July 21, 2011 (probably should've done this as a blog but ah well )Considering that at the moment TF doesn't have many western women I do realise that maybe this isn't exactly the right place to say this but I need to get it of my chest. The main question is..... How do you get used to your friends leaving? I've been feeling a bit down as most of my friends are leaving Thailand in quick succession. For instance: 1) Rakhee went back to South Africa 2) Randy went back to London for a while (she was meant to go for 3 months but she's no longer sure whether she's coming back) 3) Chris went back to the states 4) Ashley went back to Colorado 5) Chelsea has moved to Chumpon & will stay there until she visits England then will go back to South Africa 6) Mariza is travelling with her bf & is gonna decide whether to go back to South Africa afterwards 7) Annabel & Jasmine are going back to England in about a month 8) Linn (my closest friend here) is going to Sweden (but it's only for a month ) 2-6 happened in the same month! 8 is happening tomorrow! None of them were tourists either (except for Jasmine) They all had been living here for quite some time, had jobs, apartments, etc... I've got a friend in Laos who has decided to go back to England as he can't deal with making friendships & seeing them leave shortly after anymore. Mind you, the bar he was working for got burnt down but I still think the options for him in Laos are far better than in England, what with the unemployment situation. lol. So yeah, I know I need to grow some balls & stop being a moaning sissy but still, any thoughts or comments are much welcomed well from the looks of it you need more male "friends" --- I bet they will stick around! maybe hard to get them to leave you alone, but that is life ---> feast or famine ...still a new flock is likely to show up soon... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drlovelife8 Posted July 22, 2011 Report Share Posted July 22, 2011 I tend to avoid goodbyes, it allows me to avoid people telling me to **** off and die Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaunitz Posted July 24, 2011 Report Share Posted July 24, 2011 (probably should've done this as a blog but ah well )Considering that at the moment TF doesn't have many western women I do realise that maybe this isn't exactly the right place to say this but I need to get it of my chest. The main question is..... How do you get used to your friends leaving? I've been feeling a bit down as most of my friends are leaving Thailand in quick succession. For instance: 1) Rakhee went back to South Africa 2) Randy went back to London for a while (she was meant to go for 3 months but she's no longer sure whether she's coming back) 3) Chris went back to the states 4) Ashley went back to Colorado 5) Chelsea has moved to Chumpon & will stay there until she visits England then will go back to South Africa 6) Mariza is travelling with her bf & is gonna decide whether to go back to South Africa afterwards 7) Annabel & Jasmine are going back to England in about a month 8) Linn (my closest friend here) is going to Sweden (but it's only for a month ) 2-6 happened in the same month! 8 is happening tomorrow! None of them were tourists either (except for Jasmine) They all had been living here for quite some time, had jobs, apartments, etc... I've got a friend in Laos who has decided to go back to England as he can't deal with making friendships & seeing them leave shortly after anymore. Mind you, the bar he was working for got burnt down but I still think the options for him in Laos are far better than in England, what with the unemployment situation. lol. So yeah, I know I need to grow some balls & stop being a moaning sissy but still, any thoughts or comments are much welcomed With time, you will get used to it. It's a sad fact, but it'a a fact. I met tons of people during my various appointments abroad and there have been a bunch of good ones among them. But still, some of them I have sporadic contact with like for Christmas or New Year and lots of them just are history. Otherwise I would be "friends" with more than 1,000 people, a thing you cannot manage anymore. And there also are people, good people, that I had contacts with for years and then it slowed down. That's life. Don"t worry! Those you really care of also for the long term matched with those who rellay care for you for the long term you always will be in contact somehow, maybe not on a weekly basis but when needed! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teila Posted July 24, 2011 Author Report Share Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) Thanks for the comments (& good laughs) guys I'm not normally such a soppy, miserable sod, think it was just a combination of things leading to a bad day. -TMI alert- Realized the whole friends leaving thing Moving when I really don't want to (greedy landlord) Uncle dumping a big project workwise (on top of my normal duties) which meant my own project had to be put on the backburner Having to tell my best friend of 6 years some harsh home truths & end the friendship & feeling helpless when my 3 year old cousin had to be taken to hospital in Angthong (obviously I'm in BKK) Why is it when that kinda stuff happens, it happens all around the same time? Why can't the events be considerate & space themselves out? lol Anyways, it's all cool now, my little cousin is 90% better now & the rest........nothing a few margaritas, shots, cocktails & a kick up the arse couldn't sort out. lol (& I'm not even joking on that one) Edited July 24, 2011 by Teila added a Too Much Info alert haha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teila Posted July 24, 2011 Author Report Share Posted July 24, 2011 Just re-read what I wrote. christ! I really do say EVERYTHING that comes in to my head. I need to sort that out. lol. (& here I go again, retard or what!?) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DANNO Posted July 24, 2011 Report Share Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) Just re-read what I wrote. christ! I really do say EVERYTHING that comes in to my head. I need to sort that out. lol.(& here I go again, retard or what!?) oh hell ...every picture tells a story...don't it? BTW you're not the soppy one we all know that is CiaranM Edited July 26, 2011 by DANNO Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted July 25, 2011 Report Share Posted July 25, 2011 BTW your no the soppy one well all know that is CiaranM i know a little filipino who is gonna get a kick up the arse very soon !!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin_2 Posted July 25, 2011 Report Share Posted July 25, 2011 As a bit of an update... I left Thailand wondering if I had a reasonable option in New York, and flew back with a few options beyond what I could have dreamed about. I destroyed my interviews (in a good way) and won't accept the position that I originally flew over to interview for, as something bigger and better presented itself to me in the same area. I feel like my professional ceiling is way out of site...a great relief. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teddy Posted July 26, 2011 Report Share Posted July 26, 2011 I destroyed my interviews (in a good way) and won't accept the position that I originally flew over to interview for, as something bigger and better presented itself to me in the same area. In the same area of work? Or the same location? Or both? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin_2 Posted July 26, 2011 Report Share Posted July 26, 2011 In the same area of work? Or the same location? Or both? I'll explain it all after you buy me a beer at Sportsman on Wednesday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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