With referred to my last journal over Sinsod which I have google for more info after read Koolbreez’s comment, his comment really impressed me. I never know about sin sod much, but I’ve witnessed some marriage in my town and I think this is what ancestor do. But I need to learn more about Thai Tradition & culture..hehe. I found out about Sinsod & tong maan. Tong maan is assets which can be ring, gold, condo, car, house, land and the rights valued in monetary. Tong maan is the assets that a man gives to a woman for assurance and promise that he will marry her. And about sin sod, sin sod is same assets as tong maan as aboved but sin sod is for giving to a girl’s parent. I am not sure if sin sod is kept by parents for helping a newly wed…(no specified)…….. but in reality sin sod as I’ve seen never give to a newly wed because food is cost more than sinson…
Nowadays, some parents give sinsod to newly wed as a wedding gift. I assumed it was about 20 yrs ago if I’m not wrong there was a high profile whom I think she was an actress or from wealthy family was going to get marry to a guy who was in same social status and sinsod was about 80 M. and the girl’s parents show their spirit by gave it to a newly wed. Then TV, newspapers, radio news and all mass media were talking about the parents. And it becomes popular among wealthy nowadays.
PS. For Geee, sugar husk and Hyper223 over flower and deflower girls I don’t think sinsod price is gona change hehe…..and thanks to Steinar’s comment, you are so sweet.
My sinsod….(my sinsod style/big girl’s way of life ….hehehe)
When I was in NZ trip on March 2010. I was telling my bf (which is my husband now just for a record haha) over a friend who was going to marry and her parents ask for 500k sinsod. My bf then started saying that the parents sell their daughter for high price and he went on saying that he knows Thai family who gave daughter without Sinsod. Upon hearing that I thought I need to save up for sinsod myself, even we haven’t talking about marry but I don’t want to be disappointed later on.
After back from that trip I was be encourage by friends saying mostly if a girl has visited her bf oversea then no longer she’ll get marry and tell me that I should do something to make my bf propose….and I did, first time when I was about to leave NZ I told him that “my friends told me if I’m not get an engage ring from you, do not go back” he said “don’t think I’m that easy” and I was thinking probably I have to wait for next 2 years to marry. After that I couldn’t stand being tempted by friends so the second resume and my bf gave same answer. Until the third time I mentioned my dad & family then he gave in. wow it work..hahaha….
Then he asked when would I want to marry, I told him “I wanted to marry a few days before I’m 40 because I don’t wana be 40 and be single coz it sound creepy hahaha..So we agreed to marry on Sept 19, 2010. My mom said she’ll talk to a monk see if that day is auspicious day. it turn out not a good day so we postponed to Nov 20, 2010 my mom still insist as it is not a day, which I thought I was not gona get a husband because couldn’t find a perfect day. Then the final was Nov 19, 2010. FINALLY I be single and 40 for a couple months!!!! Haha….
At first I don’t know how to talk about sinsod with bf because afraid of unkind feedback, but thinking of my boss married to an air hostess whose sinson was 1M but my boss told me her mom agreed to take only 10% which I think it’s fair enough. I don’t care about sinsod but if there is no sinsod my family would be disappoint and hurt and more over what would my family think & feel toward my husband which I couldn’t imagine. However, I want my bf to share our tradition half it would be much appreciate so I’ve made decision to talk to him over sinsod one day.
Me: My sinsod will be 100K and I’ll help you pay half, is that ok?
When my parents asked how much my sinsod, I told the truth and dad asked me “who is conduct negotiating?” at that moment I think I was going to be 40, I’m not young anymore I have the right & freedom to choose what good for me and I have to be fair to both parties. My parents are my family and my bf is my family too and he is the man that I will stand beside him for better or worse and no matter how much he makes is doesn’t mean he has to pay a large sum to my family. So I answer my dad “I do conducting myself” dad was in silent….. Mom asks how much I help bf paid sinsod and I tell her the truth, 50K. What I hear was “you must have loved him so much”. I was in silent because I want to cut that short. No matter my decision I made my family must respect me and they do. I have set my family clear where they stand and boundary because I don’t want to have a consequential issues, I have seen and witnessed some family when daughter married a rich guy, the family keep asked the daughter for financial support and it turn out later that her helping is become the family habit & her burden which is never end. Surely argument over family demanding with her husband is on and off, and that’s what I don’t want to see in my lifetime. It doesn’t mean my family is poor but deep down of human nature is greed and selfish. So if you spoiled them they would probably wait only for your helping but do nothing and that mean you cripple them, and it’s probably your fault. This doesn’t mean I don’t help them at all but it depends on the case and how importance.
Finally, I asked my bf to pay full amount of Sinsod because I have to buy gold for 20k, wedding band 50k, food and miscellaneous at my home town was about 40k. My bf said ok as usual, thanks for made thing simple to me. On Oct & early Nov 2010. I still didn’t prepare anything for wedding. Friends said I should look for wedding dress and pre wedding studio because once in a life time I must be the most beautiful girl..hahaha. I did visit a studio near where I live the owner quote me for 2 traditional wedding dresses + pre wedding photos about 10k and I think its reasonable price. when she ask how much sinsod I get, and after she knew how much, she act as if it is ridiculous and she went on saying that a 29 years old girl, who is her client got sinsod from her husband to be, a 60 years old guy from England for 1M baht. She then told me to ask fore more from my bf because he is a farang he can afford more than 100k and this price is for Thai only and even some Thai can afford more…. She’s very talkative and I let she go on telling over and over. But once my wedding day was closer I went to Prakanong fresh market bought Thai traditional dress cost me 700 baht and I paid for resize 40 baht. And that’s it…hehe…
Last week mom told me that people gossiping in village that I got a kii nok husband. I happy that my parents doesn’t care of what ppl remark or grudge but they seem more satisfied that their daughter was finally sold out..Hehe… when one has a decent partner, apparently it’s a part of life success ….
I really relaxing these days because first my family relieved that I’m married and things went smoothly once meet the parents, second I don’t have to worry about my family’s concern that I’m single anymore, third, I’m married a man by chemistry….. And forth, we are at same age gap. My wedding went smoothly and we have a small blessing ceremony in my home town and small TF thank you party in Bkk. My husband doesn’t want to have a big party but said once married reach 5 years he’ll set a big celebration, which I couldn’t agree more. On a day we went to register office we saw couples who sign divorce and couples who sign marriage were almost same number that day. Bloody Hell!!!!