You have a lovely beau who is kind & gentle person but you have known him not that long and he lives far away now. You think he is probably the one that you are waiting for whole life and only want to prove it in the near future. Oh, you already met and spent time together. You know you loved him and he also loves you, (not sure how much he loves you?hehe God knows)

A couple days ago, you got job offer by accident and the job is PA (personal assistant). Its very challenging job and very very good opportunity. They guy who offer job demands he wants someone who can be his right hand or his shadow and can be available at anytime, if urgent work required even on day off or sometimes got to be with boss late until after mid night.

TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT!! (Confusing version)

The problem is if you choose a job you probably lost your beau or he would probably be a tourist boyfriend or boyfriend who is up to on/off button. Because you have to focus on your career the first thing, unless you have to find a new man who is live and work here. But that is not easy to find either.

If you choose your beau what if in the wrong run you found out your relationship is failed, in this case you probable lose your job opportunity and relationship.

If you choose new job you probably have a good opportunity but probably lost your love one. Who you think you could be with for the rest of your life and who you want to be with.

You know this person is in the middle of something?..dear oh dear?(u probably know her she is absolutely abnormal..lol..)

What do you think? Any solution?

P.S. sorry my English is suck?coz getting old

Sounds like he is a tourist bf anyway as you said so you have to choose what you want. You could end up without a job chatting most of your relationship........

why does having a bf sound like a job conflict to you? take the job and set some healthy boundaries with the boss and then have the bf as well. if the relationship grows to additional commitment you can always quit the job.

Yeah take the job! If he can't /won't adapt to the job demands there's no love anyway... :-P

If u know he is right one, u find way to be together...Career, job or anything else cannot be excuse...Faraway from eyes, faraway to heart - so u must choose.Ask your heart, ask your mind than make a decision - maybe I am too romantic, but I always choose love. Believe me, money and career are worthless if u cannot anybody to share a joy of life--I speak to u from my personal xperience!

How many times in our life that we meet someone and we think "he is the one", sister soda? (I know I have had that feeling plenty of times and I forgot all about them a few weeks after..)

Boyfriends come and go, the job is something that will feed you and it adds up something interesting in your CV.

If the job is something that you really want so go for it, if the boyfriend is the one, he is the one.

ps. stop saying your English sucks, sis. )

Gotta disagree with my brother Poul here . . . .

>>>>unless you have to find a new man who is live and work here. <<<<

That seems like the easiest option (especially with your beauty and charm); and a relationship with that "new man" woulld probably stand a better chance if he doesn't have to play tug-of-war with your boss for your time and attention.

I say, Go for the JOB

If you only think he is the right one, he is not

When the right one comes along, YOU will KNOW.

IF he is the one, all he has to say is: do what makes you really happy. And encourage you.

When you're old and dying, will you be glad you spent more time working in an office or more time with someone you loved?

Easy when you think about long term...

Your career is important Soda. It provides security for you and your future. As others have said, relationships come and go.

And in my opinion, if the relationship is good, he will not be afraid because you are working closely with another man. He will be there for you regardless.

Good luck, kid!

You're already past shelf life for Asian guys.

Your only hope is the farang now.

But marriage or the concept of lifelong partner is pretty much dying everywhere.

Take the job... But only if it is a real job with real pay. Not some under 50K baht per month crap.

Lots of good advice (above) Soda! Esp. PJack, nicky, and petey (in my opinion)

If the relationship is healthy there should be no issues with the new position, but talk

with new boss so you have reasonable SODA time.

Look after your self if a man loves you he will understand that your future is important for yourself. In fact he should respect that you are self driven unlike some women and be proud of your achievements.

totaly agree with peemarc!

Show me the moneyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

totaly agree with Frans65

I agree with Rob, plenty of good guys living here, and if you choose for the tourists ( as usual) you choose for an ON-OFF button. Of course, if you ask him on a date, you ll better be there, do not the same with him as you did with me...

Totally agree with Hugo.

PA is a job which I would liek to get one.

If I were you I would choose PA.

totaly agree with Hugo

Totally agree with P' Nicky, :-D

I m a person who born to be fulltime working thing, and my working life EARNED me alot more than just money but life (which takes all my money lolz ). You can be heart broken or hurt by a bf, but work never ever even hurt you.

i totally agree with CiaranM ... he's one smart cookie !!!

Difficult choices, give yourself some time to think about it my dear sis.